Building High Self Esteem By Losing
"Self Importance"

Building high self esteem requires that we stop trying to compensate for insecurities and imagined faults, and just be ourselves -- acting and speaking from the heart, not our fears.

Building self esteem is impossible when self importance dominates our lives.

When we compare ourselves to others, and then try to measure up -- or compete -- self importance rears its ugly head.

Anytime you compare yourself, you walk into a trap. If your self esteem depends on how you measure up, there will always be someone who makes you feel inferior -- who threatens your ego.

Are you giving yourself low self esteem because you think you have to look like, think like, or act like so and so?

Self importance happens when we pretend to be what we aren't. Then, when others challenge that position, our egos get all puffed up, and bent out of shape.

All of us are individuals with our own unique path and special lessons to learn. Real beauty isn't defined by the shape of someone's nose, or the amount of money they have...

...Real beauty and personal power comes from personal development. In other words...

...When you are fully you, then you are beautiful. Your job is to find out what that means. To get to know yourself, and get on the path to self actualization....

This is what brings true joy and inspiration -- because it's your life purpose...

...It's what you are here for -- not pretending to be someone else, or just another clone. There's too many of those in the world already.

Allow yourself to be you. You must accept who you are -- with all of your flaws and all -- and start from there if your goal is building high self esteem.

Too many people want self esteem without having to do any work on their inner being. They don't want to face and deal with their wounded inner child, because this child is why they feel so bad about themselves. It's much more appealing to go on a spending spree, get a hair cut, buy a special, car, or pursue a fancy degree you deep down don't care a hoot about.

It's common for people to try to acquire more money, or make other such outward, materialistic changes that they can use to feel better about themselves - to uphold their self importance. They will flaunt medals, degrees, expensive clothes, husbands or wives, pedigrees, fancy homes and cars, even scars, and diseases...

...How many times have you heard someone seeking attention telling everyone about their physical and mental ailments? Too many times, I'm sure. It's just another face of self importance.

There's certainly nothing wrong with pursuing different things in the material world. In fact, we are here to have fun, and enjoy the physical realm. The problem is when we are going after those things to impress, or please other people.

Steps to Building High Self Esteem

Want to know the secret to building high self esteem? It's simple...

...Take a deep breath, relax, and don't  be afraid to stop pretending. Forget about what people are thinking because if you are operating from self importance -- they're most likely not too happy with you anyway. Accept it. Allow it. And you know what?...

...When you pretend to be what you're not, you are sending yourself a direct subconscious message that shouts, "I'm not good enough."

And, another thing...

...When you make choices, and decisions, look at your reason behind it. If you find that you are operating from self importance, stop. Address the issue that you feel bad about. Don't let it control you. Stop being controlled by others, and claim your power.

Get in touch with yourself. If you feel insecure about something, give yourself permission to stop hiding it - from yourself and others. Just be honest. After all...

...How can you do something about something you won't even acknowledge?

Fears, insecurities, and low self esteem, come from beliefs that we form in childhood. Just because you believe something doesn't mean it's true. Identifying and eliminating self defeating beliefs is where you begin building high self esteem.