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Self Esteem Boosters
These self esteem boosters are simple, yet effective ways to give yourself more respect, personal power, and permission to be who you really are.
Isn't it annoying when you want to know how to build self esteem, and someone says to "think positive"?...
...Of course, thinking positive does help your self esteem, but if you could do that, you wouldn't be here reading this page right now.
Below is a list of effective, and practical self esteem boosters to incorporate into your daily life.
Besides for a feeling, self esteem is something you do. Love and respect are things that you give to yourself...
Self Esteem Boosters
- Get a makeover.
I'm sure you've heard this one before, but it's more important than you might think . I'm not suggesting that you should cater to the latest fashion fads, but if you've been neglecting your appearance, do something about it now. Don't make being "in style" your goal, but do what makes you happy. In other words, if you have great hair, don't chop it short just because you are over a certain age or think it's not manly. If you want long hair, have long hair.
- Give yourself a lot of love.
Look at yourself from the perspective of a loving parent, and decide what you need. Then, take action to acquire it. Whether that is more time to yourself, more sleep, or just some fun - make it happen, you are worth it. Try to remember to keep on being your own protective, loving parent, and take better care of yourself.
If you are like many people with low self esteem, your creativity got shut down, right along with your self confidence. Turn that around.
Sit down, have a cup of coffee -- or whatever would assist your thinking process -- and ask yourself what creative activity you would really really enjoy. Be careful not to let self-defeating beliefs influence your decision.
Want to learn to paint pictures? Play the guitar? Become a writer? Go for it! And don't let money stop you. Order books from the library, or buy your supplies, or equipment a piece at a time. Buy it used. Do what you can with what you have, to get started. Life will provide the way if you show your intention.
- Get in shape.
Think of an enjoyable activity, that would provide good exercise for your body. Real self esteem boosters are fun, and make you feel good. When exercise is all drudgery and boredom, it never lasts -- so be sure to put plenty of thought into your decision. I personally love walking and running while listening to my favorite music, or paddling around in a lake. There are so many things to choose from. When you decide, take action to make it happen regularly. Here's some more body image fitness tips, and ideas.
- Eat better, trust your body.
Eating the wrong foods can make you chemically off balance, and contribute to low self esteem. You can't think, or do anything as well as you normally could. This can also harm your self image by making you overweight. Your body lets you know by feeling bad, when there is a problem. And, did you know that when you give your body inferior food, you send yourself a negative subconscious message? Click here to learn more about how to gain self esteem, lose weight, and get healthy.
- Tie up loose ends!
These things are energy drainers, and hurt your self esteem. They make you feel overwhelmed, and as a failure. Clean out your closet or even your whole house. Get rid of things you know you aren't going to wear, use, read, or finish. Don't keep things because you feel guilty for tossing them. If you don't like them, get them out of your house! Give them away, recycle, just chuck them.
Then, start working, one at a time, on the things you do want to finish. Write that letter, finish that painting, plant your garden, whatever. Don't overwhelm yourself. If it's too big for you to do, then let it go and don't beat yourself up over it. Be the realistic parent who doesn't expect too much.
- Expect and prepare for abundance, not scarcity and poverty.
When you need something, or need to take care of something, do it. Don't deny yourself because your are worried that something bad will happen, and you will need the money. This is how the law of attraction works -- if you prepare for poverty, that is what you will get. I'm not saying to take unnecessary risks. I'm saying not to live in fear. Living in fear affirms low self esteem. Life will support you if you expect it to.
- Get rid of negative people.
If you have low self esteem, I guarantee that there are certain people that get you down, or make you feel worse. Invoke your inner parent again, and say NO!
Don't worry about what someone will think, or if their feelings will be hurt. You have probably been putting these people's feelings ahead of your own for too long. Put a stop to it, and give yourself some respect. You can even do it nicely by just saying, "I am going through some personal changes right now, and am wanting to spend time alone. I am fine, thank you for caring."
Then, stick to it. If they come knocking on your door, or call "out of the blue" -- and they will -- don't let them derail you. Tell them you are busy. Don't give any more explanations. You have a right to be. As your self esteem increases, those people will no longer "vibrate" to your energy, and will fade away like bad dreams.
- Trust your intuition.
Listen to it. Tune in, and don't block it out. The still small voice within is constantly giving you important messages that would highly benefit your life, if you could hear it. Listening to your intuition get's easier and easier if you try to make it a habit. Be alert to it. Your intuition often tries to give you a message about something just by calling your attention to it. For example, you may start thinking about your health, and how good you are feeling-- right before you get sick. Listening to your intuition is one of the best self esteem boosters because it builds trust in yourself.
Self Help Magazine is another good place to look for self esteem boosters. Also be sure to check out our free self esteem worksheets here.